How Should You Deal With A Toxic Cofounder?

It was the summer, and we were closing in on our Series A funding. I wanted to update my fellow co-founders on our progress, so I scheduled a meeting at the local Starbucks.

A little bit off topic, but Starbucks is a great meeting venue for an unfunded company with no office space. So is Peets, by the way. You get a nice environment with beverages and a bathroom. What more can you ask for…

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Four of the five founders were on time for our 11AM meeting. We were waiting on our Chief Technology Officer, “Raphael.”

11:10AM. Out of the corner of my eye I say Raphael walking through the parking lot. He looked like a geeky gunslinger dressed all in black.

We had been raising money for 18 months. We had survived the nuclear winter of the Great Recession. The fund raising had been exhausting. All of my cofounders patience, and belief in the company, was tested.

You need to decide, sooner rather than later, when you’ve reached your enough point with your cofounder.

Raphael opened the doors to Starbucks abruptly and sat down at our table.

Before I could update the team, Raphael started talking.

“So,” Raphael said in his thick accent, “DO WE HAVE A TERM SHEET OR NOT!”

Raphael was pissed.

You could feel his anger push everyone back from the table.

“We are getting close,” I responded.

“CLOSE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH! I AM TIRED OF WAITING. THIS IS GOING NOWHERE!”

“This is how it works,” I said. “We are making really good progress. We…”

“SOMETHING BETTER HAPPEN SOON!” Raphael said.

With that, Raphael walked out of Starbucks.

I went on with the meeting and updated the rest of the team. One of the other cofounders asked me, “What are we going to do about Raphael?”

“Let me think about it,” I answered.

We concluded the meeting, and I thought about what we were going to do about Raphael.

Raphael is a brilliant engineer. I wondered if we could we live with Raphael’s “eccentricities” because of his skills?

I realized the answer was obvious. In fact, the decision was crystal clear.

Then you need to action once you’ve decided to remove the problem cofounder.

A couple months later we were closing our funding, and I met with Raphael and our VP of Engineering, Jeroen. This time we met at Peets.

Raphael was again about 10 minutes late.

Raphael walked through the door of Peets again wearing all black.

Raphael sat down at our table, and I began speaking.

“We’re closing our funding next week as you know. I’ve decided we are going to go forward without you.

“I am giving you a check, buying back your shares for $100.” I had checked with our attorney, and she felt giving him a check was the cleanest way for us to go forward.

Raphael looked relieved. “OK,” he responded. The three of us shook hands, and he walked out of Peets.

I felt the weight of the world lifting from my shoulders. We didn’t have to deal with a toxic coworker anymore.

The only question I had was, “why did I wait so long?”

I had tried to see if we could make it work. I had talked to Raphael, and things got better.

Then they got worse again. So I spent more time with Raphael.

Things got better, and then they got worse again.

I am sure you have all seen this pattern sometime in your career.

The meeting at Starbucks was my “enough” point. I kept thinking to myself, “What is Raphael going to be like in a real work crisis?”

The answer was simple: Raphael will be a cancer.

Start-ups are fragile by their very nature. You are fighting an uphill battle with less resources then your competitors.

You can’t afford to have a Raphael during the tough times.

And I knew we would have tough times.

The lesson for any manager at any level is to fix the problem when things are going well. Don’t be afraid of taking action because you fear losing the person’s supposed skill. You will not miss it. Trust me.

Once you get your toxic cofounder fixed or out of your life, you will feel the weight of the world off your shoulders.

Just like I did with Raphael and all the Raphaels that came after.

For more, read: http://www.brettjfox.com/can-you-fire-your-cofounder-for-no-reason/

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I work with startup CEOs to help them grow their businesses . I built several businesses from $0 to >$100M. Learn more at www.brettjfox.com

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